Managing Desires and Aversion: Should Bjorn focus on his current games or wish for the new one?

By EpictetusCharacter Development3 min readGrade 10.1
Classroom
Intermediate

Overview

Consider a child who really wants a new video game that their parents can't afford. If they focus on enjoying the games they already have and being creative with their play, they'll feel happier than if they keep wishing for the new game.

The Choice

Should Bjorn focus on his current games or wish for the new one?

Quick Stats

Grade Band
Grades 6-8
Reading Level
Level 10.138855231143555
Word Count
411 words
Published
Mar 23, 2026

The Dilemma

Bjorn and Hana are close friends who love playing video games together after school. Recently, a new game has been released, and everyone is talking about it. Bjorn is eager to get it, but his parents have explained that it's too expensive right now. Hana invites Bjorn over to play the game at her house, but Bjorn feels a bit envious and wishes he could have the game himself. At home, Bjorn has plenty of other games he enjoys, but the desire for the new game keeps nagging at him. He wonders if he should focus on appreciating what he already has or keep wishing for the new game, hoping his parents might eventually buy it. Bjorn now faces a choice: (A) focus on enjoying the games he already has and stop comparing himself to others, or (B) start saving up and working toward buying the new game, because having goals is part of growing up.

Values in Tension

This dilemma explores the tension between two important values:

Contentment
vs
Self-Discipline

Consider how these values might conflict or complement each other in this situation.

Your Options

A

Focus on enjoying the games he already has and stop comparing himself to others

B

Save up and work toward buying the new game, because having goals and ambitions is part of growing up

Questions for Reflection

Take a moment to consider these questions. There are no "right" answers – the goal is to explore different perspectives and develop your own reasoning.

  1. 1

    What would you do, and why?

  2. 2

    How does focusing on desires affect happiness?

  3. 3

    What might happen if Bjorn keeps wishing for the game?

  4. 4

    How might Epictetus advise Bjorn here?

  5. 5

    Turn & tell: What would our class consider the proper action here, and why?

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Philosophical Perspective

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Lesson Plans

Quick Fire5 min

Managing Desires and Aversion — 5-10 minutes

Learning objectives:

  • -Identify the core ethical tension
  • -Make a quick, reasoned choice

Discussion prompts:

  • 1.Which option did you choose, and why?
  • 2.What would you give up with each choice?
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Standard15 min

Managing Desires and Aversion — 15-20 minutes

Learning objectives:

  • -Identify competing values
  • -Articulate trade-offs

Discussion prompts:

  • 1.What would you lose by choosing each option?
  • 2.Is there a third path?
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