Acting with Decency and Patience: Clara must choose between waiting patiently or drawing attention.

By EpictetusTechnology Ethics2 min readGrade 8.8
Classroom
Intermediate

Overview

Imagine you're at a birthday party, and everyone is getting cake. Instead of pushing to get your piece first, you wait patiently for your turn, showing respect for others. This way, everyone enjoys the celebration together.

The Choice

Clara must choose between waiting patiently or drawing attention.

Quick Stats

Grade Band
Grades 6-8
Reading Level
Level 8.84080435693339
Word Count
341 words
Published
Mar 23, 2026

The Dilemma

Clara and Chen are at a school science fair, and their team is waiting for the judges to taste their homemade ice cream. As the judges approach, Clara notices that Chen is anxious, fearing their project might not stand out. Nearby, another team is struggling with their presentation, and it seems like the judges might skip them. Chen suggests that they subtly draw the judges' attention back to their table to ensure their project is noticed. Clara feels the pressure to act quickly but remembers the principle of acting with decency and patience. Should they wait their turn and let the judges decide naturally, or should they intervene to ensure their effort is recognized? Clara now faces a choice: (A) Wait patiently for the judges to come to them, or (B) Draw the judges' attention to their project.

Values in Tension

This dilemma explores the tension between two important values:

Fairness
vs
Autonomy

Consider how these values might conflict or complement each other in this situation.

Your Options

A

Wait patiently for the judges

B

Draw the judges' attention

Questions for Reflection

Take a moment to consider these questions. There are no "right" answers – the goal is to explore different perspectives and develop your own reasoning.

  1. 1

    What would you do, and why?

  2. 2

    How does acting with decency and patience apply here?

  3. 3

    What are the consequences of each choice?

  4. 4

    How might Epictetus advise Clara here?

  5. 5

    Turn & tell: What would our class consider the proper action here, and why?

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Philosophical Perspective

Insights from Epictetus

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Lesson Plans

Quick Fire5 min

Acting with Decency and Patience — 5-10 minutes

Learning objectives:

  • -Identify the core ethical tension
  • -Make a quick, reasoned choice

Discussion prompts:

  • 1.Which option did you choose, and why?
  • 2.What would you give up with each choice?
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Standard15 min

Acting with Decency and Patience — 15-20 minutes

Learning objectives:

  • -Identify competing values
  • -Articulate trade-offs

Discussion prompts:

  • 1.What would you lose by choosing each option?
  • 2.Is there a third path?
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