Freedom Over Numbers: Should Vikram attend the party or work with Tariq?

By EpictetusRelationships & Social Skills3 min readGrade 7.2
Classroom
Intermediate

Overview

Imagine a student who feels pressured to be friends with a large group but realizes they feel happier and more supported with just one true friend. They choose to spend time with that friend instead, valuing genuine connection over popularity.

The Choice

Should Vikram attend the party or work with Tariq?

Quick Stats

Grade Band
Grades 6-8
Reading Level
Level 7.2
Word Count
305 words
Published
Jun 7, 2025

The Dilemma

Vikram and Tariq are both in the same sixth-grade class. Vikram is known for being friendly and often finds himself surrounded by many classmates who want to be his friend. However, he sometimes feels overwhelmed by the expectations of being part of such a large group. Tariq, on the other hand, is quieter and prefers spending time with just a few close friends. One day, Vikram notices that he feels more at ease and genuinely happy when he spends time with Tariq, who shares his love for drawing and storytelling. As the weekend approaches, Vikram is invited to a big party by his larger group of friends, but he also has the option to hang out with Tariq, who has invited him to a small get-together to work on a comic book project. Vikram The choice is theirs to make.

Values in Tension

This dilemma explores the tension between two important values:

Loyalty
vs
Autonomy

Consider how these values might conflict or complement each other in this situation.

Your Options

A

Attend the big party.

B

Work on the comic with Tariq.

Questions for Reflection

Take a moment to consider these questions. There are no "right" answers – the goal is to explore different perspectives and develop your own reasoning.

  1. 1

    What would you do, and why?

  2. 2

    Why might Vikram feel happier with Tariq?

  3. 3

    What are the benefits of having many friends?

  4. 4

    How might Epictetus advise Vikram in this situation?

  5. 5

    Can you recall a time in your own life when you faced a somewhat similar choice or feeling? What did you do?

Did you like this dilemma?

Loading poll data...

Philosophical Perspective

Insights from Epictetus

Take a moment to form your own thoughts first, then click to explore philosophical perspectives.

Related Topics

friendship
peer-pressure
authenticity
Portrait of Epictetus

Epictetusc. 50-c. 135

Epictetus (c. 50 – c. 135 AD) was a prominent Stoic philosopher who began life as a slave in Phrygia. After gaining freedom, he taught philosophy in Rome and later established a renowned school in Nicopolis. Though he wrote nothing, his teachings, recorded …

Stoicism
The Dichotomy of Control (what is in our power vs. what is not)
Prohairesis (Moral Choice/Volition) and the Correct Use of Impressions
Explore how Epictetus informs this dilemma and discover additional ethical puzzles shaped by their ideas.
Learn more about Epictetus or continue exploring dilemmas inspired by their philosophy.

Lesson Plans

Quick Fire5 min

Freedom Over Numbers — 5-10 minutes

Learning objectives:

  • -Identify the core ethical tension
  • -Make a quick, reasoned choice

Discussion prompts:

  • 1.Which option did you choose, and why?
  • 2.What would you give up with each choice?
participation
Standard15 min

Freedom Over Numbers — 15-20 minutes

Learning objectives:

  • -Identify competing values
  • -Articulate trade-offs

Discussion prompts:

  • 1.What would you lose by choosing each option?
  • 2.Is there a third path?
participation