Overview
Think about a child who loses a favorite toy. Instead of feeling devastated, they can remind themselves that they had the toy for a time and can cherish the memories, helping them to cope with the loss.
The Choice
Bjorn must choose to tell Hana the truth or replace the mug secretly.
Quick Stats
- Grade Band
- Grades 6-8
- Reading Level
- Level 9.260151515151517
- Word Count
- 330 words
- Published
- Mar 23, 2026
The Dilemma
Bjorn and Hana are in the school library working on a group project. Bjorn accidentally knocks over Hana's favorite mug, a gift from her grandmother, and it shatters. Hana is visibly upset, and Bjorn feels terrible. He knows he can either tell Hana the truth and apologize, or he can try to replace the mug without her knowing. Bjorn remembers Epictetus's teaching about understanding loss and wonders if Hana can find comfort in the memories of the mug rather than the object itself. However, he also worries about losing Hana's trust if he doesn't come clean. Bjorn now faces a choice: (A) tell Hana the truth and apologize, or (B) secretly replace the mug and hope she doesn't notice.
Values in Tension
This dilemma explores the tension between two important values:
Consider how these values might conflict or complement each other in this situation.
Your Options
Tell Hana the truth and apologize
Replace the mug secretly
Questions for Reflection
Take a moment to consider these questions. There are no "right" answers – the goal is to explore different perspectives and develop your own reasoning.
- 1
What would you do, and why?
- 2
How does understanding loss apply here?
- 3
What are the consequences of each choice?
- 4
How might Epictetus advise Bjorn here?
- 5
Turn & tell: What would our class consider the proper action here, and why?
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Philosophical Perspective
Insights from Epictetus
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