Overview
Imagine a teenager who feels upset after receiving criticism. Instead of blaming the critic, they can reflect on their own thoughts about the feedback and choose to view it as an opportunity for growth.
The Choice
Clara must choose to collaborate with Chen or stick to her plan.
Quick Stats
- Grade Band
- Grades 6-8
- Reading Level
- Level 8.66682262094027
- Word Count
- 259 words
- Published
- Mar 23, 2026
The Dilemma
Clara and Chen are working on a school project together at Clara's home. Clara is excited about their idea, but Chen suggests a different approach that might improve their work. Clara feels upset by Chen's suggestion, interpreting it as criticism of her idea. She starts to think Chen doesn't value her input. As they discuss, Clara remembers a lesson on how our feelings are influenced by our opinions about events, not the events themselves. She realizes she can choose to see Chen's suggestion as a chance to improve their project, rather than as a personal attack. Clara now faces a choice: (A) express her feelings and work collaboratively with Chen, or (B) ignore Chen's suggestion and stick to her original plan.
Values in Tension
This dilemma explores the tension between two important values:
Consider how these values might conflict or complement each other in this situation.
Your Options
Collaborate with Chen's suggestion
Stick to her original plan
Questions for Reflection
Take a moment to consider these questions. There are no "right" answers – the goal is to explore different perspectives and develop your own reasoning.
- 1
What would you do, and why?
- 2
How does the principle of self-responsibility for emotions apply here?
- 3
What are the consequences of each choice?
- 4
How might Epictetus advise Clara here?
- 5
Have you ever felt misunderstood? Turn & tell: What would our class consider the proper action here, and why?
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Philosophical Perspective
Insights from Epictetus
Take a moment to form your own thoughts first, then click to explore philosophical perspectives.
