Self-Responsibility for Emotions: Clara must choose to collaborate with Chen or stick to her plan.

By EpictetusCharacter Development2 min readGrade 8.7
Classroom
Intermediate

Overview

Imagine a teenager who feels upset after receiving criticism. Instead of blaming the critic, they can reflect on their own thoughts about the feedback and choose to view it as an opportunity for growth.

The Choice

Clara must choose to collaborate with Chen or stick to her plan.

Quick Stats

Grade Band
Grades 6-8
Reading Level
Level 8.66682262094027
Word Count
259 words
Published
Mar 23, 2026

The Dilemma

Clara and Chen are working on a school project together at Clara's home. Clara is excited about their idea, but Chen suggests a different approach that might improve their work. Clara feels upset by Chen's suggestion, interpreting it as criticism of her idea. She starts to think Chen doesn't value her input. As they discuss, Clara remembers a lesson on how our feelings are influenced by our opinions about events, not the events themselves. She realizes she can choose to see Chen's suggestion as a chance to improve their project, rather than as a personal attack. Clara now faces a choice: (A) express her feelings and work collaboratively with Chen, or (B) ignore Chen's suggestion and stick to her original plan.

Values in Tension

This dilemma explores the tension between two important values:

Responsibility
vs
Honesty

Consider how these values might conflict or complement each other in this situation.

Your Options

A

Collaborate with Chen's suggestion

B

Stick to her original plan

Questions for Reflection

Take a moment to consider these questions. There are no "right" answers – the goal is to explore different perspectives and develop your own reasoning.

  1. 1

    What would you do, and why?

  2. 2

    How does the principle of self-responsibility for emotions apply here?

  3. 3

    What are the consequences of each choice?

  4. 4

    How might Epictetus advise Clara here?

  5. 5

    Have you ever felt misunderstood? Turn & tell: What would our class consider the proper action here, and why?

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Philosophical Perspective

Insights from Epictetus

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Lesson Plans

Quick Fire5 min

Self-Responsibility for Emotions — 5-10 minutes

Learning objectives:

  • -Identify the core ethical tension
  • -Make a quick, reasoned choice

Discussion prompts:

  • 1.Which option did you choose, and why?
  • 2.What would you give up with each choice?
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Standard15 min

Self-Responsibility for Emotions — 15-20 minutes

Learning objectives:

  • -Identify competing values
  • -Articulate trade-offs

Discussion prompts:

  • 1.What would you lose by choosing each option?
  • 2.Is there a third path?
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