Responsibility for Self-Improvement: Should Dev ask Nico for help or work independently?

By EpictetusCharacter Development2 min readGrade 8.5
Classroom
Intermediate

Overview

Consider a teenager who keeps saying they will start studying for their exams next week. If they keep delaying their study plans, they risk failing to learn the material and performing poorly on the tests.

The Choice

Should Dev ask Nico for help or work independently?

Quick Stats

Grade Band
Grades 6-8
Reading Level
Level 8.5
Word Count
288 words
Published
Jun 7, 2025

The Dilemma

Dev and Nico have known each other long enough to know exactly which buttons not to push. Recently, their school announced a big science fair, and Dev was excited to participate. He planned to create a model of a volcano, but he kept putting off the work, thinking he had plenty of time. Meanwhile, Nico started working on his project right away and often invited Dev to join him in study sessions. However, Dev preferred playing video games, promising himself he'd start his project next week. As the deadline approached, Dev realized he hadn't even begun his project. Nico offered to help, but Dev felt guilty for not taking responsibility earlier. Dev

Values in Tension

This dilemma explores the tension between two important values:

Responsibility
vs
Autonomy

Consider how these values might conflict or complement each other in this situation.

Your Options

A

Ask Nico for help.

B

Work on his own.

Questions for Reflection

Take a moment to consider these questions. There are no "right" answers – the goal is to explore different perspectives and develop your own reasoning.

  1. 1

    What would you do, and why?

  2. 2

    Why do you think Dev kept procrastinating?

  3. 3

    How might Dev feel if he asks Nico for help?

  4. 4

    How might Epictetus advise Dev in this situation?

  5. 5

    Can you recall a time in your own life when you faced a somewhat similar choice or feeling? What did you do?

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Philosophical Perspective

Insights from Epictetus

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Lesson Plans

Quick Fire5 min

Responsibility for Self-Improvement — 5-10 minutes

Learning objectives:

  • -Identify the core ethical tension
  • -Make a quick, reasoned choice

Discussion prompts:

  • 1.Which option did you choose, and why?
  • 2.What would you give up with each choice?
participation
Standard15 min

Responsibility for Self-Improvement — 15-20 minutes

Learning objectives:

  • -Identify competing values
  • -Articulate trade-offs

Discussion prompts:

  • 1.What would you lose by choosing each option?
  • 2.Is there a third path?
participation