Sameer and Emily are best friends who love playing soccer together...

By Frederick Douglass•Relationships & Social Skills•2 min read•Grade 8.4
Classroom
Intermediate

Quick Stats

Grade Band
Grades 6-8
Reading Level
Level 8.4
Word Count
333 words
Published
Jan 1, 2024

The Dilemma

Sameer and Emily met on the first day of middle school and quickly became each other's most trusted confidants. Recently, during a friendly match at the local park, Sameer noticed that Emily was being overly competitive and often bending the rules to win. One day, during a crucial game, Emily asked Sameer to pretend he didn't see her handball, which would give their team an unfair advantage. Sameer felt uncomfortable with this request, as he valued fairness and honesty. However, he also didn't want to upset Emily or risk losing her friendship. As the game continued, Sameer struggled with the decision. He knew that if he ignored the handball, he would be compromising his own values and self-respect. On the other hand, if he called out the infraction, he might upset Emily and face social pressure from his teammates. Sameer

Values in Tension

This dilemma explores the tension between two important values:

Autonomy
vs
Fairness

Consider how these values might conflict or complement each other in this situation.

Your Options

A

Ignore Emily's handball.

B

Call out the handball.

Questions for Reflection

Take a moment to consider these questions. There are no "right" answers – the goal is to explore different perspectives and develop your own reasoning.

  1. 1

    What would you do, and why?

  2. 2

    Why is it important to maintain self-respect?

  3. 3

    How can standing up for fairness impact friendships?

  4. 4

    How might Frederick Douglass advise Sameer in this situation?

  5. 5

    Can you recall a time in your own life when you faced a somewhat similar choice or feeling? What did you do?

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Philosophical Perspective

Insights from Frederick Douglass

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Lesson Plans

Quick Fire5 min

Sameer and Emily are best friends who love playing soccer together... — 5-10 minutes

Learning objectives:

  • -Identify the core ethical tension
  • -Make a quick, reasoned choice

Discussion prompts:

  • 1.Which option did you choose, and why?
  • 2.What would you give up with each choice?
participation
Standard15 min

Sameer and Emily are best friends who love playing soccer together... — 15-20 minutes

Learning objectives:

  • -Identify competing values
  • -Articulate trade-offs

Discussion prompts:

  • 1.What would you lose by choosing each option?
  • 2.Is there a third path?
participation