The Power of Self-Determination: Should Sade stand up for Alex or stay silent?

By Frederick Douglass•Relationships & Social Skills•2 min read•Grade 6.7
Classroom
Intermediate

Overview

Imagine a student who stands up against bullying in school, realizing that their confidence and self-worth are more important than fitting in. By choosing to speak out, they inspire others to do the same, creating a supportive community.

The Choice

Should Sade stand up for Alex or stay silent?

Quick Stats

Grade Band
Grades K-2
Reading Level
Level 6.7
Word Count
307 words
Published
Jun 7, 2025

The Dilemma

Sade and Dayo were best friends who loved to play soccer during recess. One day, a new student named Alex joined their class. Alex was shy and didn't know anyone, so Sade invited Alex to play soccer with them. Dayo, however, didn't want Alex to join, saying that Alex was too slow and would ruin their game. Sade felt torn because she wanted to include Alex, but she also didn't want to upset Dayo. During the game, Alex accidentally kicked the ball out of bounds, and Dayo started teasing Alex, making Alex feel bad. Sade knew it wasn't right to let Dayo tease Alex, but she was afraid of losing Dayo's friendship if she stood up for Alex.

Values in Tension

This dilemma explores the tension between two important values:

Loyalty
vs
Autonomy

Consider how these values might conflict or complement each other in this situation.

Your Options

A

Stand up for Alex.

B

Stay silent and hope Dayo stops.

Questions for Reflection

Take a moment to consider these questions. There are no "right" answers – the goal is to explore different perspectives and develop your own reasoning.

  1. 1

    What would you do, and why?

  2. 2

    Why is it important to stand up for others?

  3. 3

    How do you think Alex feels in this situation?

  4. 4

    How might Frederick Douglass advise Sade in this situation?

  5. 5

    Can you recall a time in your own life when you faced a somewhat similar choice or feeling? What did you do?

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Philosophical Perspective

Insights from Frederick Douglass

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Lesson Plans

Quick Fire5 min

The Power of Self-Determination — 5-10 minutes

Learning objectives:

  • -Identify the core ethical tension
  • -Make a quick, reasoned choice

Discussion prompts:

  • 1.Which option did you choose, and why?
  • 2.What would you give up with each choice?
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Standard15 min

The Power of Self-Determination — 15-20 minutes

Learning objectives:

  • -Identify competing values
  • -Articulate trade-offs

Discussion prompts:

  • 1.What would you lose by choosing each option?
  • 2.Is there a third path?
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