Overview
Kenji wants to make the travel soccer team. The coach's son, Andre, is looking for friends at the new school. Kenji's teammate suggests he befriend Andre to improve his chances of making the team.
The Choice
Should Kenji befriend someone just to get on the team?
Quick Stats
- Grade Band
- Grades 6-8
- Reading Level
- Level 7.635363636363639
- Word Count
- 325 words
- Published
- Mar 23, 2026
The Dilemma
Kenji has been dreaming of making the travel soccer team all year. Tryouts are in two weeks. His teammate Marcus mentions that the coach's son, Andre, just transferred to their school and does not know many people yet. "If you become friends with Andre, Coach Williams might notice you more," Marcus says. Kenji sees Andre sitting alone at lunch the next day. Part of him genuinely feels bad for the new kid. But another part of him thinks Marcus might be right — getting close to Andre could help his soccer dreams.
Values in Tension
This dilemma explores the tension between two important values:
Consider how these values might conflict or complement each other in this situation.
Your Options
Be genuinely kind to Andre without any hidden motives.
Befriend Andre mainly to improve his chances with the coach.
Questions for Reflection
Take a moment to consider these questions. There are no "right" answers – the goal is to explore different perspectives and develop your own reasoning.
- 1
What is the difference between being kind and using someone?
- 2
How would Andre feel if he found out Kenji's real reason?
- 3
Can a friendship that starts with selfish motives become real?
- 4
What would happen if everyone only made friends to get something?
- 5
Does Kenji owe Andre honesty about his feelings?
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Philosophical Perspective
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