Accepting Our Roles in Life: Should Anders help Eun-Kyung or focus on his own role?

By EpictetusRelationships & Social Skills2 min readGrade 8.7
Classroom
Intermediate

Overview

Think of being part of a school play where you have a specific role. Instead of wishing to be the star, you focus on doing your best in your part, knowing that every role is important to the overall story.

The Choice

Should Anders help Eun-Kyung or focus on his own role?

Quick Stats

Grade Band
Grades 6-8
Reading Level
Level 8.685367494824018
Word Count
336 words
Published
Mar 23, 2026

The Dilemma

Anders and Eun-Kyung are part of a school play. Anders is assigned a supporting role, while Eun-Kyung is the lead. Anders initially feels disappointed because he wanted a bigger part. However, he decides to focus on doing his best in his role, knowing it contributes to the play's success. As rehearsals progress, Anders notices that Eun-Kyung is struggling with her lines and confidence. She confides in Anders, feeling overwhelmed and asking for his help. Anders is torn. He can either help Eun-Kyung, which might mean less time to perfect his own performance, or he can focus solely on his role, ensuring he performs it well. Anders now faces a choice: (A) Help Eun-Kyung with her role, or (B) Focus on perfecting his own performance.

Values in Tension

This dilemma explores the tension between two important values:

Loyalty
vs
Responsibility

Consider how these values might conflict or complement each other in this situation.

Your Options

A

Help Eun-Kyung with her role

B

Focus on perfecting his own role

Questions for Reflection

Take a moment to consider these questions. There are no "right" answers – the goal is to explore different perspectives and develop your own reasoning.

  1. 1

    What would you do, and why?

  2. 2

    How does 'Accepting Our Roles in Life' apply here?

  3. 3

    What are the consequences of each choice?

  4. 4

    How might Epictetus advise Anders here?

  5. 5

    Turn & tell: What would our class consider the proper action here, and why?

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Philosophical Perspective

Insights from Epictetus

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Lesson Plans

Quick Fire5 min

Accepting Our Roles in Life — 5-10 minutes

Learning objectives:

  • -Identify the core ethical tension
  • -Make a quick, reasoned choice

Discussion prompts:

  • 1.Which option did you choose, and why?
  • 2.What would you give up with each choice?
participation
Standard15 min

Accepting Our Roles in Life — 15-20 minutes

Learning objectives:

  • -Identify competing values
  • -Articulate trade-offs

Discussion prompts:

  • 1.What would you lose by choosing each option?
  • 2.Is there a third path?
participation