Acting with Decency and Patience: Should Clara seize the moment with Chen or wait her turn?

By EpictetusTechnology Ethics3 min readGrade 9.3
Classroom
Intermediate

Overview

Imagine you're at a birthday party and your favorite dessert is being served. Instead of grabbing it immediately or feeling upset if it hasn't come to you yet, you wait patiently for your turn, enjoying the moment and the company around you.

The Choice

Should Clara seize the moment with Chen or wait her turn?

Quick Stats

Grade Band
Grades 6-8
Reading Level
Level 9.345093795093796
Word Count
396 words
Published
Mar 23, 2026

The Dilemma

Clara and Chen are in the school cafeteria during lunch. Clara notices that her favorite dessert, chocolate cake, is being served, but there's only a limited amount left. Chen suggests they quickly cut the line to grab the cake before it runs out. Clara hesitates, knowing that cutting the line isn't fair to others who have been waiting patiently. However, she also really wants the cake and fears it might be gone if she waits. As Clara looks around, she sees other students waiting patiently, and she remembers how upset she gets when others cut in front of her. Clara now faces a choice: (A) grab the last slices with Chen before they are gone, because sometimes you have to act quickly or miss out, or (B) wait in line even if the cake runs out, because being fair to other students matters more.

Values in Tension

This dilemma explores the tension between two important values:

Patience
vs
Fairness

Consider how these values might conflict or complement each other in this situation.

Your Options

A

Grab the last slices with Chen before they are gone, because sometimes you have to act quickly or miss out entirely

B

Wait in line even if the cake runs out, because being fair to other students is more important than getting dessert

Questions for Reflection

Take a moment to consider these questions. There are no "right" answers – the goal is to explore different perspectives and develop your own reasoning.

  1. 1

    What would you do, and why?

  2. 2

    How does the principle of patience apply here?

  3. 3

    What are the consequences of each choice?

  4. 4

    How might Epictetus advise Clara here?

  5. 5

    Turn & tell: What would our class consider the proper action here, and why?

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Philosophical Perspective

Insights from Epictetus

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Lesson Plans

Quick Fire5 min

Acting with Decency and Patience — 5-10 minutes

Learning objectives:

  • -Identify the core ethical tension
  • -Make a quick, reasoned choice

Discussion prompts:

  • 1.Which option did you choose, and why?
  • 2.What would you give up with each choice?
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Standard15 min

Acting with Decency and Patience — 15-20 minutes

Learning objectives:

  • -Identify competing values
  • -Articulate trade-offs

Discussion prompts:

  • 1.What would you lose by choosing each option?
  • 2.Is there a third path?
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