Acting with Decency and Patience: Should Diego submit early to stand out or wait to make it excellent?

By EpictetusSchool & Academic Life2 min readGrade 9.4
Classroom
Intermediate

Overview

Imagine waiting for your turn to play a game. Instead of getting upset if it's not your turn yet, you focus on being patient and enjoying the game when it comes to you.

The Choice

Should Diego submit early to stand out or wait to make it excellent?

Quick Stats

Grade Band
Grades 6-8
Reading Level
Level 9.434496314496315
Word Count
370 words
Published
Mar 23, 2026

The Dilemma

Diego and Jae are part of a school project group tasked with creating a presentation. The teacher has given them a week to complete it. Diego is eager to start right away, while Jae suggests waiting to gather more information and ideas. Diego feels a sense of urgency and wants to impress the teacher by being the first to submit the project. However, Jae believes that taking their time will lead to a better result. As the deadline approaches, Diego notices that other groups are also rushing to finish. He feels pressured to act quickly but remembers the importance of patience and thoroughness. Diego now faces a choice: (A) finish and submit the project now with what they have, because being first shows initiative, or (B) take the full week to gather more information and polish it, because thorough work reflects their true ability.

Values in Tension

This dilemma explores the tension between two important values:

Patience
vs
Autonomy

Consider how these values might conflict or complement each other in this situation.

Your Options

A

Finish and submit the project now with what they have, because being first shows initiative and the content is already solid

B

Take the full week to gather more information and polish it, because thorough work reflects their true ability even if others finish first

Questions for Reflection

Take a moment to consider these questions. There are no "right" answers – the goal is to explore different perspectives and develop your own reasoning.

  1. 1

    What would you do, and why?

  2. 2

    How does 'Acting with Decency and Patience' apply here?

  3. 3

    What are the consequences of rushing vs. being thorough?

  4. 4

    How might Epictetus advise Diego here?

  5. 5

    Turn & tell: What would our class consider the proper action here, and why?

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Philosophical Perspective

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Lesson Plans

Quick Fire5 min

Acting with Decency and Patience — 5-10 minutes

Learning objectives:

  • -Identify the core ethical tension
  • -Make a quick, reasoned choice

Discussion prompts:

  • 1.Which option did you choose, and why?
  • 2.What would you give up with each choice?
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Standard15 min

Acting with Decency and Patience — 15-20 minutes

Learning objectives:

  • -Identify competing values
  • -Articulate trade-offs

Discussion prompts:

  • 1.What would you lose by choosing each option?
  • 2.Is there a third path?
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