Choosing Our Reactions: Bjorn must choose to confront Alex or talk to a teacher.

By EpictetusSchool & Academic Life2 min readGrade 8.7
Classroom
Intermediate

Overview

If someone teases you at school, instead of getting upset, you remember that it’s your choice how to react. You can choose to laugh it off or talk to them about how it makes you feel.

The Choice

Bjorn must choose to confront Alex or talk to a teacher.

Quick Stats

Grade Band
Grades 6-8
Reading Level
Level 8.673439153439155
Word Count
324 words
Published
Mar 23, 2026

The Dilemma

Bjorn and Hana are working on a science project together at school. They've been friends for a while, but today Hana seems upset. During lunch, Hana tells Bjorn that another classmate, Alex, made fun of her presentation style in front of the class. Bjorn feels a mix of anger and confusion. He wants to stand up for Hana, but he also knows that reacting impulsively might make things worse. Bjorn remembers a lesson about choosing how to respond to situations. He considers talking to Alex calmly or reporting the incident to a teacher. Bjorn now faces a choice: (A) Confront Alex directly and express his feelings, or (B) Discuss the situation with a teacher to find a solution.

Values in Tension

This dilemma explores the tension between two important values:

Autonomy
vs
Responsibility

Consider how these values might conflict or complement each other in this situation.

Your Options

A

Confront Alex directly

B

Talk to a teacher

Questions for Reflection

Take a moment to consider these questions. There are no "right" answers – the goal is to explore different perspectives and develop your own reasoning.

  1. 1

    What would you do, and why?

  2. 2

    How does choosing our reactions apply here?

  3. 3

    What are the possible outcomes of each choice?

  4. 4

    How might Epictetus advise Bjorn here?

  5. 5

    Turn & tell: What would our class consider the proper action here, and why?

Did you like this dilemma?

Loading poll data...

Philosophical Perspective

Insights from Epictetus

Take a moment to form your own thoughts first, then click to explore philosophical perspectives.

Related Topics

peer-pressure
responsibility
empathy
Portrait of Epictetus

Epictetusc. 50-c. 135

Epictetus (c. 50 – c. 135 AD) was a prominent Stoic philosopher who began life as a slave in Phrygia. After gaining freedom, he taught philosophy in Rome and later established a renowned school in Nicopolis. Though he wrote nothing, his teachings, recorded …

Stoicism
The Dichotomy of Control (what is in our power vs. what is not)
Prohairesis (Moral Choice/Volition) and the Correct Use of Impressions
Explore how Epictetus informs this dilemma and discover additional ethical puzzles shaped by their ideas.
Learn more about Epictetus or continue exploring dilemmas inspired by their philosophy.

Lesson Plans

Quick Fire5 min

Choosing Our Reactions — 5-10 minutes

Learning objectives:

  • -Identify the core ethical tension
  • -Make a quick, reasoned choice

Discussion prompts:

  • 1.Which option did you choose, and why?
  • 2.What would you give up with each choice?
participation
Standard15 min

Choosing Our Reactions — 15-20 minutes

Learning objectives:

  • -Identify competing values
  • -Articulate trade-offs

Discussion prompts:

  • 1.What would you lose by choosing each option?
  • 2.Is there a third path?
participation