The Dichotomy of Control: Should Nadia stick to her plan or add extras?

By EpictetusSchool & Academic Life2 min readGrade 8.4
Classroom
Intermediate

Overview

Imagine a student who is anxious about getting a good grade. Instead of worrying about the teacher's opinion or the outcome, they focus on studying hard and doing their best. This way, they feel more in control and less stressed about the final result.

The Choice

Should Nadia stick to her plan or add extras?

Quick Stats

Grade Band
Grades 6-8
Reading Level
Level 8.4
Word Count
319 words
Published
Jun 7, 2025

The Dilemma

Nadia and Min-jun are preparing for a big science project presentation at school. They've worked hard, but Nadia is worried about the final grade. Min-jun, noticing her anxiety, suggests they focus on what they can control, like practicing their presentation and ensuring their project is well-organized. However, Nadia overhears some classmates discussing how they plan to impress the teacher with flashy visuals and extra materials, which they believe might sway the teacher's opinion. Nadia feels the pressure to do the same, even though it means spending extra time and resources they hadn't planned for. Min-jun reminds her that their project is strong and that they should focus on their efforts rather than trying to predict or influence the teacher's reaction.

Values in Tension

This dilemma explores the tension between two important values:

Autonomy
vs
Responsibility

Consider how these values might conflict or complement each other in this situation.

Your Options

A

Stick to the original plan.

B

Add last-minute extras.

Questions for Reflection

Take a moment to consider these questions. There are no "right" answers – the goal is to explore different perspectives and develop your own reasoning.

  1. 1

    What would you do, and why?

  2. 2

    How important is it to focus on what you can control?

  3. 3

    Why might Nadia feel pressured to change her plan?

  4. 4

    How might Epictetus advise Nadia in this situation?

  5. 5

    Can you recall a time in your own life when you faced a somewhat similar choice or feeling? What did you do?

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Philosophical Perspective

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Lesson Plans

Quick Fire5 min

The Dichotomy of Control — 5-10 minutes

Learning objectives:

  • -Identify the core ethical tension
  • -Make a quick, reasoned choice

Discussion prompts:

  • 1.Which option did you choose, and why?
  • 2.What would you give up with each choice?
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Standard15 min

The Dichotomy of Control — 15-20 minutes

Learning objectives:

  • -Identify competing values
  • -Articulate trade-offs

Discussion prompts:

  • 1.What would you lose by choosing each option?
  • 2.Is there a third path?
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