The Dangers of Flattery: Should Rafael skip practice or attend it?

By EpictetusSchool & Academic Life2 min readGrade 7.5
Classroom
Intermediate

Overview

A teenager receives compliments from a friend who wants them to skip class. They realize that true friends would encourage them to do the right thing, not just flatter them.

The Choice

Should Rafael skip practice or attend it?

Quick Stats

Grade Band
Grades 6-8
Reading Level
Level 7.5
Word Count
307 words
Published
Jun 7, 2025

The Dilemma

Rafael and Daiki were walking home from school when Daiki started praising Rafael's skills in soccer. "You're the best player on our team!" Daiki exclaimed. Rafael felt flattered and proud. As they walked, Daiki suggested, "Why don't we skip practice today and just hang out at the arcade? You deserve a break, and everyone knows you're the star anyway." Rafael hesitated, knowing that skipping practice might let his team down, but Daiki continued, "Come on, you don't need practice. You're already amazing!" Rafael appreciated the compliments but also remembered how much his team relied on him during games. He valued being a good team player and knew that practice was important for everyone, not just for himself. However, the idea of going to the arcade was tempting, especially with Daiki's flattering words making it sound like he was doing Rafael a favor. Rafael The moment of decision has arrived.

Values in Tension

This dilemma explores the tension between two important values:

Autonomy
vs
Responsibility

Consider how these values might conflict or complement each other in this situation.

Your Options

A

Skip practice for the arcade.

B

Attend soccer practice.

Questions for Reflection

Take a moment to consider these questions. There are no "right" answers – the goal is to explore different perspectives and develop your own reasoning.

  1. 1

    What would you do, and why?

  2. 2

    Why might Daiki be flattering Rafael?

  3. 3

    How does flattery affect decision-making?

  4. 4

    How might Epictetus advise Rafael in this situation?

  5. 5

    Can you recall a time in your own life when you faced a somewhat similar choice or feeling? What did you do?

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Philosophical Perspective

Insights from Epictetus

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Lesson Plans

Quick Fire5 min

The Dangers of Flattery — 5-10 minutes

Learning objectives:

  • -Identify the core ethical tension
  • -Make a quick, reasoned choice

Discussion prompts:

  • 1.Which option did you choose, and why?
  • 2.What would you give up with each choice?
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Standard15 min

The Dangers of Flattery — 15-20 minutes

Learning objectives:

  • -Identify competing values
  • -Articulate trade-offs

Discussion prompts:

  • 1.What would you lose by choosing each option?
  • 2.Is there a third path?
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