Perspective on Loss: Diego must choose to retrieve the ball or respect the neighbor's property.

By EpictetusRelationships & Social Skills2 min readGrade 8.6
Classroom
Intermediate

Overview

Imagine a child losing a favorite toy. Instead of feeling devastated, they can think of it as returning the toy to where it belongs, allowing them to cherish the memories instead of feeling sad about the loss.

The Choice

Diego must choose to retrieve the ball or respect the neighbor's property.

Quick Stats

Grade Band
Grades 6-8
Reading Level
Level 8.558000000000003
Word Count
248 words
Published
Mar 23, 2026

The Dilemma

Diego and Jae are in the school playground when Diego's soccer ball, a birthday gift from his grandfather, gets kicked over the fence into a neighbor's yard. The yard is guarded by a big, barking dog, and the neighbor is known for being unfriendly. Jae suggests climbing the fence to retrieve it, but Diego hesitates, remembering his grandfather's words about respecting others' property. Meanwhile, Jae insists that the ball is special and worth the risk. Diego now faces a choice: (A) climb the fence to get the ball, risking the neighbor's anger and the dog's reaction, or (B) leave the ball, respecting the neighbor's property and accepting the loss.

Values in Tension

This dilemma explores the tension between two important values:

Respect
vs
Responsibility

Consider how these values might conflict or complement each other in this situation.

Your Options

A

Retrieve the ball from the yard

B

Respect the neighbor's property

Questions for Reflection

Take a moment to consider these questions. There are no "right" answers – the goal is to explore different perspectives and develop your own reasoning.

  1. 1

    What would you do, and why?

  2. 2

    How does the principle of 'Perspective on Loss' apply here?

  3. 3

    What are the consequences of each choice Diego faces?

  4. 4

    How might Epictetus advise Diego here?

  5. 5

    Think about a time you lost something important. Turn & tell: What would our class consider the proper action here, and why?

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Philosophical Perspective

Insights from Epictetus

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Lesson Plans

Quick Fire5 min

Perspective on Loss — 5-10 minutes

Learning objectives:

  • -Identify the core ethical tension
  • -Make a quick, reasoned choice

Discussion prompts:

  • 1.Which option did you choose, and why?
  • 2.What would you give up with each choice?
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Standard15 min

Perspective on Loss — 15-20 minutes

Learning objectives:

  • -Identify competing values
  • -Articulate trade-offs

Discussion prompts:

  • 1.What would you lose by choosing each option?
  • 2.Is there a third path?
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