The Dichotomy of Control: Talia must choose to redo Chen's research or trust him.

By EpictetusCharacter Development2 min readGrade 8.3
Classroom
Intermediate

Overview

Imagine a student preparing for a big test. They can study hard and do their best, which is in their control, but they can't control how well their classmates do or what questions will be on the test. Focusing on their own preparation helps them feel less anxious.

The Choice

Talia must choose to redo Chen's research or trust him.

Quick Stats

Grade Band
Grades 6-8
Reading Level
Level 8.332062959618117
Word Count
337 words
Published
Mar 23, 2026

The Dilemma

Talia and Chen are working on a group project for their science class. Talia is responsible for the presentation, while Chen handles the research. As the presentation day approaches, Talia notices that Chen's research is incomplete. Talia feels anxious because their grade depends on this project. She wonders if she should redo the research herself, which is within her control, or trust Chen to finish it, which is not. Talia understands that she can control her own actions but not Chen's efforts. She also worries about the impact on their friendship if she takes over Chen’s part. Talia now faces a choice: (A) redo Chen's research to ensure a good grade, or (B) trust Chen to complete his part and focus on her presentation.

Values in Tension

This dilemma explores the tension between two important values:

Responsibility
vs
Autonomy

Consider how these values might conflict or complement each other in this situation.

Your Options

A

Redo Chen's research herself

B

Trust Chen to finish his part

Questions for Reflection

Take a moment to consider these questions. There are no "right" answers – the goal is to explore different perspectives and develop your own reasoning.

  1. 1

    What would you do, and why?

  2. 2

    How does the principle of control apply here?

  3. 3

    What are the consequences of each choice?

  4. 4

    How might Epictetus advise Talia here?

  5. 5

    Think of a time you faced a similar choice. Turn & tell: What would our class consider the proper action here, and why?

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Philosophical Perspective

Insights from Epictetus

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Lesson Plans

Quick Fire5 min

The Dichotomy of Control — 5-10 minutes

Learning objectives:

  • -Identify the core ethical tension
  • -Make a quick, reasoned choice

Discussion prompts:

  • 1.Which option did you choose, and why?
  • 2.What would you give up with each choice?
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Standard15 min

The Dichotomy of Control — 15-20 minutes

Learning objectives:

  • -Identify competing values
  • -Articulate trade-offs

Discussion prompts:

  • 1.What would you lose by choosing each option?
  • 2.Is there a third path?
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