Desire and Aversion: Yasmin must choose between perfecting decorations or embracing teamwork.

By EpictetusCharacter Development2 min readGrade 9.6
Classroom
Intermediate

Overview

Consider a child who wants to avoid getting bullied at school. Instead of fearing the bullies, they can focus on being kind and making friends, which is something they can control.

The Choice

Yasmin must choose between perfecting decorations or embracing teamwork.

Quick Stats

Grade Band
Grades 6-8
Reading Level
Level 9.554412825135206
Word Count
353 words
Published
Mar 23, 2026

The Dilemma

Yasmin and Daiki are in a school club tasked with organizing a charity event. Yasmin is excited but also nervous about the responsibility. She wants everything to go perfectly, but Daiki suggests they focus on enjoying the process and doing their best. As they plan, Yasmin becomes fixated on making sure every detail is flawless, fearing criticism from peers. Daiki, on the other hand, emphasizes teamwork and the joy of contributing to a good cause. One day, they face a decision: Yasmin can either spend extra hours perfecting the decorations, which might lead to burnout, or she can join Daiki in rallying the team to focus on the event's purpose and have fun. Yasmin now faces a choice: (A) Focus on perfecting the decorations or (B) Embrace teamwork and enjoy the process.

Values in Tension

This dilemma explores the tension between two important values:

Responsibility
vs
Autonomy

Consider how these values might conflict or complement each other in this situation.

Your Options

A

Perfect the decorations

B

Embrace teamwork and fun

Questions for Reflection

Take a moment to consider these questions. There are no "right" answers – the goal is to explore different perspectives and develop your own reasoning.

  1. 1

    What would you do, and why?

  2. 2

    How does the principle of Desire and Aversion apply here?

  3. 3

    What are the consequences of focusing on perfection vs. teamwork?

  4. 4

    How might Epictetus advise Yasmin here?

  5. 5

    Turn & tell: What would our class consider the proper action here, and why?

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Philosophical Perspective

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Lesson Plans

Quick Fire5 min

Desire and Aversion — 5-10 minutes

Learning objectives:

  • -Identify the core ethical tension
  • -Make a quick, reasoned choice

Discussion prompts:

  • 1.Which option did you choose, and why?
  • 2.What would you give up with each choice?
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Standard15 min

Desire and Aversion — 15-20 minutes

Learning objectives:

  • -Identify competing values
  • -Articulate trade-offs

Discussion prompts:

  • 1.What would you lose by choosing each option?
  • 2.Is there a third path?
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